Being A Boy Mom


 

Being A Boy Mom

There is a list of things I was not prepared for when it came to being a boy mom. This 9year old of mine simultaneously does not want me around, but he wants to be filmed doing something ALL. OF. THE. TIME.

When we are in public, he refuses all forms of affection, discussions of affection or signals that affection may be coming.  For instance, last night at soccer practice, I said “hey, just so you know, I love you.” He promptly replied “Mom. Ew.”

And yet, we secretly are obsessed with one another. He says “Mom” at least 75 times a day and it is always I equate it to the 9year old equivalent of “hey, hold my beer.”

“Hey mom, look what I did to the dog.”

french bulldog in sunglasses - being a boy mom

“Hey mom, can you take a pic of me jumping off the diving board?”

boy jumping into a swimming pool - being a boy mom

“Mom…I’m going to jump again. Can you take another picture?”

boy jumping off a diving board - being a boy mom

“Mom…can I have a snack?”

“Mom, can you tuck me in?”

“Hey mom, I’ve lost my cleats.”

“MOOOOOOM…where are my soccer shorts?”

Snacks For The Win

Sometimes the list of things that being a boy mom is exhausting and more than twice a day, he reminds me of all the things I screw up. But a few weeks ago, I bought a new snack for the days when we are out by the pool and we don’t want to stop and go in.

I stocked up at Walmart because we had a lot of poolside play dates to celebrate the last week of summer. As little dude was downing his 1st Danimal, he looks at me and says

“Wow Mom. Good job on the snacks!”

danimals beside a pool - being a boy mom

Please believe me that I counted that as a Mom Win and tucked it away into the corner of my heart where I store all of the things like that he says to me. I never know when the next such event will come.

I think that is where being a boy mom is tricky. There are so few times when these little men we are raising stop and sound appreciative and that can be hard for us mamas to hear. But then there are days of the smallest things, like buying a favorite snack that gets noticed and you get credited for it.

I am glad that God gave me both a daughter and a son. Watching each of them develop in entirely in their own unique, separate ways is one of the highlights of being a parent. It can also be one of the biggest struggles, because I am always having to change up how I respond to him, instead of his sister. It is what makes him who he is and while we sometimes struggle to figure it out, the beauty of adoption is the commitment we have to figure out.

boy in a hat and sunglasses floating in a pool - being a boy mom

Yup, being a boy mom definitely keeps me on my toes. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. I mean, look at this kid. Who wouldn’t consider themselves lucky to be his personal driver, chef, housekeeper, social calendar coordinator and Co-President of his very own fan club?

You can learn more about how #DanimalsDoesSummer here and leave me a comment and tell me your favorite way being a boy mom surprised you.

Lindsey Andrews
About me

Attorney & Author of I Walk For Water. http://amzn.to/1FWlzpW Loved by hubs, 2 adopted kids, but worshiped by a French bulldog, named Walter.

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42 Comments

Sarah Bailey
Reply August 11, 2017

It sounds like there are some amazing things about being a mum to a boy - although I am sure there are some great things about being a parent full stop.

Sarah Bailey
Reply August 11, 2017

Aww it sounds like you and your boy have some amazing times together even though he keeps you on your toes at times.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 12, 2017

    He definitely keeps me on my toes, but I feel honored to be his mom.

Denay DeGuzman
Reply August 11, 2017

I'm the mother of two girls, but boy would it have been fun to raise a little guy! I guess I have to wait and see what the future holds - one day I hope to be a Mimi to some sweet little grandsons. And your post just reminded me, I need to replenish my stock of Danimals - we adults love them too! :-)

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 12, 2017

    Denay, I love having one of each, but I would love to have another little boy. I think boys are better in packs! I tell my kids all the time that being a grandma is going to be the best gig ever!!

Anne Yedlin
Reply August 11, 2017

HAHA as a mother of 3 boys myself......I so understand the struggle lol I've never tried the Dannon Smoothies but will be getting some this weekend to see what my youngest thinks!!

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 12, 2017

    Anne...wow! Three boys...you need some Danimals for them & some wine for you! :)

Heather Johnson
Reply August 11, 2017

I have one son and one daughter at the moment. Parenting each sex is definitely different, even from a super early age.

Danielle Leigh Elen
Reply August 12, 2017

This is such a sweet tribute post to your boy! I know what you mean, it's more difficult to uncover blatant appreciation from my son than it is from my two daughters. But we work on that regularly!

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 12, 2017

    Danielle...I agree. The only thing about parenting I know for sure is that it is always the best kind of work, even if it doesn't feel like it sometimes.

David Elliott
Reply August 12, 2017

Danimals do make some great things for kids to eat and snack on. Especially when they are expending a lot of energy. And I can imagine it would be hard not to hear the appreciation as much from a child. But it's obvious he does appreciate you.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 12, 2017

    It can be hard, but I also know that he and I have our ways of showing love too. And that makes it easier..somedays! :)

Muna Kenny
Reply August 12, 2017

I have a son and he was a handful, he is a grown man now. I agree that raising boys are quite different than when having girls. Your kids are gorgeous!

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 12, 2017

    Thank you so much Muna!

Claudia Krusch
Reply August 12, 2017

I definitely hear Mom I am hungry a lot. It seems like he is always hungry. I only know how to raise boys. I never had a little girl.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 12, 2017

    I think that is why the way to a man's heart is their stomachs..they are always hungry! :)

Wanderlust Vegans
Reply August 12, 2017

If I was a mom I would rather be a mom of a boy. They seem to be much more entertaining. Also that is the cutest dog in the world.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 14, 2017

    Thank you! The dog is definitely mom's favorite. :) Boys definitely keep you on your toes, but there is something magical about girls.

Gideon
Reply August 12, 2017

My little nephew depicts this boy mom qualities. Fun to be with.

eliza
Reply August 12, 2017

I can say that its really great to be mom! Seems like your boy loves to have and expects you to be around all the time :)

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 14, 2017

    Thanks Eliza. He would just never admit that to anyone! :)

adriana
Reply August 13, 2017

Haha this is too cute! It's interesting to see the difference in moms - my mom is an all girl mom and we're definitely so different than boys! These snacks look great!

Ophelia Tang
Reply August 13, 2017

Kids grow up really fast. My younger brother gets hungry all the time and these smoothies are great between meals. Thanks for sharing.

Blair villanueva
Reply August 14, 2017

Your boy looks absolutely cool and funny. You are a great mom for them :)

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 14, 2017

    Thank you Blair!

Amanda @ The Light Owl
Reply August 14, 2017

Aw this is a sweet tribute to your son! He sounds like a fun kid.

jehava
Reply August 14, 2017

I love this and what a handsome guy! I love being a boy mom so much but, sure keeps me on my toes too.. lol.. I will have to try these out!

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 14, 2017

    It does doesn't it! They are cute and crazy all in the same breath!

Jenna Urben
Reply August 14, 2017

Awesome pictures!! Looks like a fun and exciting life

Katie
Reply August 14, 2017

Love it, your descriptions brought such a smile to my face! Great photos too.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 14, 2017

    Thank you so much Katie! Have a fantastic week!

easyblogthemes
Reply August 14, 2017

I think you are such a cool mom and this boy is so fortunate to have you. Someday, he could go back to this blog post and reminisce the good times you have.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 16, 2017

    Thank you so much! He would definitely NOT agree that I am a cool mom! :)

Anosa
Reply August 15, 2017

Looks like both of you love each other. I feel the love in your photos and somehow laugh a little on the captions haha, Savor your time together while he is young.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 16, 2017

    Thanks Anosa!

Jenn
Reply August 15, 2017

I love that picture of your dog! So cute!

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 16, 2017

    Thank you! The kids say he is mom's favorite!

Mommy Peachy
Reply August 18, 2017

It's a good thing your boy loves the camera. My little girl sometimes becomes shy. That smoothie looks really wonderful and could just be the perfect snack.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 20, 2017

    He is such a ham! He loves all the attention.

Anna Freeman
Reply August 21, 2017

haha I love this! It's too cute and very funny!

Emily Terrell
Reply August 21, 2017

I have two boys. The oldest one wants a hug almost every 5 minutes while the younger one wants to be independent all the time and get hugs before bed. Its a crazy thing to be a boy mom, but so much fun too!

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply August 22, 2017

    they are all individually unique and with boys, you have to take love when they are willing to offer it. Because you never know! :)

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