Lindsey Andrews http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com Thu, 17 Aug 2017 00:36:31 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.4.10 We Are Raising Torchbearers Too http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/we-are-raising-torchbearers-too/ http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/we-are-raising-torchbearers-too/#comments Wed, 16 Aug 2017 20:48:58 +0000 http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/?p=7666 Letter to Mamas of The Alt-Right-We Are Raising Torchbearers Too. I’ve started added a disclosure to my more personal posts. My words are never to be taken as a “me v. you” or an “us v. them” mentality. These pages are full of a broken hearted, Jesus loving girl who wants to be a citizen […]

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Letter to Mamas of The Alt-Right-We Are Raising Torchbearers Too.

I’ve started added a disclosure to my more personal posts. My words are never to be taken as a “me v. you” or an “us v. them” mentality. These pages are full of a broken hearted, Jesus loving girl who wants to be a citizen of the world, without having to leave her house. If you are offended by anything contained herein, please know, that was not my intent.

This online place is my couch, if you do not approve of the furnishings, go. I do not hold enough anger or resentment to allow it to taint me any longer. But if you are pissed, struggling, over flowing with joy, searching for meaning, learning to cook, screaming at your kids while crying over their growth charts, welcome home. Believe me when I tell you that you are most welcome here. Like they say at Disney World, Welcome Home.

The world and I saw your sons this weekend. We watched, viewing your sons through a very small lens and I could not help but wonder if you, dear mama, were proud or ashamed.

Your sons were armed. Not only were they armed with hate and ridiculous rhetoric, but also with assault rifles. Seriously, mama, who teaches their men to arm themselves with guns, when verbally debate would suffice? I was thankful your sons were at a white supremacy rally in Charlottesville and not our hometown.

But yesterday, on a walking track close to our home, I saw you and your son in real life. Charlottesville was not an isolated incident. You and your offspring are out there. And after this weekend, you feel emboldened and it is terrifying.

Our family hikes a lot. We like being outdoors and exploring the State we love. You and your son obviously share the same affinity, just one nod to how perhaps we are not so different. While I have met ugliness and mean girls in my life, only one word can describe the disgust in your eyes as you passed my African-American children yesterday-rage.

You refused to look away from my kids and as we passed one another, a dead pan lock in your eyes that continued even after we passed. You were visibly shaking at the shoulders from anger. My husband and I were so stunned by your reaction that we gripped one another by the arm and let you disappear before we spoke. But there was no mistaking the reaction to your son. As you passed us, he brought you in close, his arm around your neck, and hugged you, as if you actually had something to fear from us. I am thankful that I have no idea what he was whispering.

While neither of our kids noticed, they were too busy embroiled in battling their sibling for who could touch the highest tree branch, I never stopped looking over my shoulder. Until we were back in the car and on the road, I kept wondering if what ever was in your eyes would come out of your fists.

From one mother to another, I begged God for a son. For years through infertility, I wanted a boy who looked just like his Daddy. But it was an overseas orphanage with two souls needing a home that finally made me a mother (please spare me the talk about domestic adoption). Heaven answered me and we were a family. My son probably does look like his Daddy, but that man is not my husband.

While our children are not genetically ours, we are every bit of a family. But unlike you mama, I lay awake at night and continue to pray over my son’s future according to the standards set last weekend. If my African American son arrived at a public place with an assault rifle, along with a gaggle of his closest black friends, I know the result would be different. It is white faces like yours that continue to guarantee such a result. Not only are you complicit when white supremacy is on the tip of your tongue, but you dear mama, are permissive.

But we are raising torchbearers too, mama.

We are letting him know his struggles and work through them-not at the expense of someone else, but alongside everyone else. It will not be despite the color of his skin, but because of it. He is being brought up to know his freedom only counts if everyone else is free beside him.

Ever wonder why the Olympics has a flame that never dies? It is a passionate symbol reminding us all that we are united. Yes, even you and your son mama, are invited into that inclusion. You and your sons are following the wrong flame.

But there is hope mama.

Look to my son and daughter and the ones being raised to ignite flames of hope and justice on their own. They will light your path. Theirs are the roads paved with real hardship, not of the economic variety you claim for your sons, but of actual persecution. These roads are soaked with the tears and sweat and blood that continues to pulse, despite the odds, with love.

Instead of an angry mob, these torchbearers gather people behind their joy. Rejecting chants such as “blood and soil”, listen for the torchbearers hollering out “truth and justice”. You have taught your sons a message of exclusion and elevated rights, but my son is learning to speak acceptance and peace.
Perhaps your son was not in Charlottesville in person this weekend, dear mama. But you were both there in spirit, allowing the flames of those torches ignite your emotions alongside with every protester who was present. You did this mama. You and every other mother, father, grandparent and caregiver on this planet who is raising a child to elevate themselves, not matter the costs to their fellow man (and woman).

But my torchbearers are coming along soon.

They are already on the way. Can you not hear them singing songs of acceptance and joy? And perhaps that is your greatest fear mama, that you son will be left behind.

Peace has room for everyone and hope builds the biggest table.

Let your son ignite his life with the message of a real torchbearer he will have everything to gain. He may also help us save a divided nation and help make us the United States of America again and he can do it alongside the torchbearers we are raising too.

So here is to broken tiki torches lit in the flames of hate, may they be extinguished by the passion for hope that the next generation of torchbearers ignite.

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Being A Boy Mom

There is a list of things I was not prepared for when it came to being a boy mom. This 9year old of mine simultaneously does not want me around, but he wants to be filmed doing something ALL. OF. THE. TIME.

When we are in public, he refuses all forms of affection, discussions of affection or signals that affection may be coming.  For instance, last night at soccer practice, I said “hey, just so you know, I love you.” He promptly replied “Mom. Ew.”

And yet, we secretly are obsessed with one another. He says “Mom” at least 75 times a day and it is always I equate it to the 9year old equivalent of “hey, hold my beer.”

“Hey mom, look what I did to the dog.”

french bulldog in sunglasses - being a boy mom

“Hey mom, can you take a pic of me jumping off the diving board?”

boy jumping into a swimming pool - being a boy mom

“Mom…I’m going to jump again. Can you take another picture?”

boy jumping off a diving board - being a boy mom

“Mom…can I have a snack?”

“Mom, can you tuck me in?”

“Hey mom, I’ve lost my cleats.”

“MOOOOOOM…where are my soccer shorts?”

Snacks For The Win

Sometimes the list of things that being a boy mom is exhausting and more than twice a day, he reminds me of all the things I screw up. But a few weeks ago, I bought a new snack for the days when we are out by the pool and we don’t want to stop and go in.

I stocked up at Walmart because we had a lot of poolside play dates to celebrate the last week of summer. As little dude was downing his 1st Danimal, he looks at me and says

“Wow Mom. Good job on the snacks!”

danimals beside a pool - being a boy mom

Please believe me that I counted that as a Mom Win and tucked it away into the corner of my heart where I store all of the things like that he says to me. I never know when the next such event will come.

I think that is where being a boy mom is tricky. There are so few times when these little men we are raising stop and sound appreciative and that can be hard for us mamas to hear. But then there are days of the smallest things, like buying a favorite snack that gets noticed and you get credited for it.

I am glad that God gave me both a daughter and a son. Watching each of them develop in entirely in their own unique, separate ways is one of the highlights of being a parent. It can also be one of the biggest struggles, because I am always having to change up how I respond to him, instead of his sister. It is what makes him who he is and while we sometimes struggle to figure it out, the beauty of adoption is the commitment we have to figure out.

boy in a hat and sunglasses floating in a pool - being a boy mom

Yup, being a boy mom definitely keeps me on my toes. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. I mean, look at this kid. Who wouldn’t consider themselves lucky to be his personal driver, chef, housekeeper, social calendar coordinator and Co-President of his very own fan club?

You can learn more about how #DanimalsDoesSummer here and leave me a comment and tell me your favorite way being a boy mom surprised you.

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Choosing The Perfect Dog http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/choosing-perfect-dog/ http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/choosing-perfect-dog/#respond Wed, 09 Aug 2017 19:36:34 +0000 http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/?p=7639 This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of The J.M. Smucker Company. The opinions and text are all mine. My kids have a joke around our house. They are fond of saying that mom’s favorite kid is the dog. Well, since the dog never talks back to me, is always happy to […]

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This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of The J.M. Smucker Company. The opinions and text are all mine.

My kids have a joke around our house. They are fond of saying that mom’s favorite kid is the dog. Well, since the dog never talks back to me, is always happy to see me and does not create huge messes expecting me to clean them up, maybe the kids are onto something. And perhaps that I simply lucked out in choosing the perfect dog.

Walter, is a nine year old French Bulldog that Le and I rescued as a puppy. He was on his way to a puppy auction when the rescue we worked with bought him. He was the only one in his litter and was small for his age. His ears were not standing up yet and this apparently was not ideal in the eyes of his breeder.

french bulldog sitting on a chair - choosing the perfect dog

From the first time I played with him, I had met my match. His personality and mine are almost the exact same. While he is all bulldog, which brings out his stubborn side, he is laid-back, calm and incapable of being hyper for more than 30 seconds at a time. Like most French Bulldogs, he is close with every member of our family, but Mom is most definitely his chosen person.

He is not one for long walks or high energy runs, just like someone else I know. Instead of playing catch or chewing dog bones, he is content to sit and cuddle. The most active he chooses to be is when we travel to the beach as a family every other year. He enjoys walking into the waves and then digging himself into cool sand.

french bulldog next to a swimming pool - choosing the perfect dog

Our mornings when the kids are in school are some of the best days ever. He stands watch, keeping the yard safe from squirrels, birds and other unknown predators, like blowing leaves. While I read and work and sip coffee, he usually gets a few treats.

black french bulldog by a swimming pool - choosing the perfect dog

He is one of the pickiest animals I have ever met and when the kids try to sneak him people food, he snubs anything fried or not smelling of meat. Which is why Pup-Peroni is so perfect for him. With ingredients like real meat like beef, steak, bacon, etc. as the #1 ingredient and real meaty goodness, it’s the perfect snack for my perfect buddy.

dog treats and a french bulldog - choosing the perfect dog

While I pour coffee in the morning and the kids are still getting ready for school or the day, I sneak a Pup-Peroni treat into my pocket and Walter and I sneak outside. He snacks while we talk about the day. Not only does it help me center before the chaos of life begins, it is also a good reminder that the best things in life are small in nature.

dog treats on store shelf - choosing the perfect dog

You can learn all about what variety of Pup-Peroni your dog loves, you can check out this list at a local Wal-Mart.  Find Pup-Peroni in the pet aisle. Your pooch will thank you and will have them saying Woof Yeah! Made with real Angus steak, you can feel good about what you are giving one of your life’s biggest companions.

So when it comes to choosing the perfect dog for your family and lifestyle, what do you need to look out for? Look for a breed that aligns with your lifestyle and never be afraid to take a chance on an animal that the “experts” have deemed unworthy.

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Loving Yourself & Saying It Aloud http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/loving-yourself-saying-it-aloud/ http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/loving-yourself-saying-it-aloud/#comments Tue, 01 Aug 2017 11:30:08 +0000 http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/?p=7621 Loving Yourself & Saying It Aloud I’ve started added a disclosure to my more personal posts. My words are never to be taken as a “me v. you” or an “us v. them” mentality. These pages are full of a broken hearted, Jesus loving girl who wants to be a citizen of the world, without […]

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Loving Yourself & Saying It Aloud

I’ve started added a disclosure to my more personal posts. My words are never to be taken as a “me v. you” or an “us v. them” mentality. These pages are full of a broken hearted, Jesus loving girl who wants to be a citizen of the world, without having to leave her house. If you are offended by anything contained herein, please know, that was not my intent.

This online place is my couch, if you do not approve of the furnishings, go. I do not hold enough anger or resentment to allow it to taint me any longer. But if you are pissed, struggling, over flowing with joy, searching for meaning, learning to cook, screaming at your kids while crying over their growth charts, welcome home. Believe me when I tell you that you are most welcome here. Like they say at Disney World, Welcome Home. 

A few weeks ago, I asked a photographer friend of mine at Double J Photography to take some head shots for me. I needed to update the pics on my social media and my blog because it had bee years, but it still felt weird. As a grown ass woman, asking another grownup “Hey, will you follow me around and take some pictures?” Just odd. Right?

If you know me in real life or follow me on Instagram, you are probably very aware that I have been doing crazy things to my hair for awhile. It was purple, then green/teal/purple and then it was time to try blue. Just in time for my photography appointment.

I really cannot explain my experimentation with my hair. Someone asked me a few weeks ago “Does it mean anything?” And all I could come up with was “I just love it.” As the oldest of three kids, I suppose that being OCD and always striving to make something of myself meant I didn’t have a whole lot of fun growing up. My little sister often reminded me that I was too young to be acting so old.

When I took the last year off from practicing law, I made a list of what I wanted to do. Purple hair was on the list and it just progressed. What can I say? I had to turn 36 before I dyed my hair and pierced my nose. If this is a mid-life crisis, it is early, but I’m going with it.

My photog friend, Jennifer is amazing and the pics were more than lovely. When I got them back, I stared hard at the girl in those pics. She looked amazing. And yet, as the thought crossed my mind, I really found myself saying out loud “Sister, you look good.”

I immediately chastised myself. “You cannot say things like that about yourself. You are a mother for crying out loud.”

The Girl In These Pics

The girl in these pics, well she is lacking. In so many ways other than the physical. She was not as skinny as she should be. The lines around her eyes are quite deep. Her laugh lines are rivers and there’s a little too much in the back of those black jeans.

blue haired girl in front of blue wall - loving yourself

 

The girl in these photos loses her patience All. The. Damn. Time. She cusses too much. Her laugh is much too loud for most social situations. And most of the time she is grappling against hell and herself to figure her effing life out. And who in the world told her she should get a nose ring at 37?

And yet…

girl posing in front of blue and red door - self love

This girl has buried a brother, a father and her second mother within months of one another. Tragedy is the badge of courage that marks her shoulder., She has repeated Isaiah 46:4 more times that she can count. So much so that it now is tatted on her body and her heart.

Because God was the only one she believed when He said “I have made you. I will carry you. I will sustain you and I WILL rescue you.” This girl holds tight the redeeming nature of being rescued.

This girl has released the idea of ever birthing her own children. She has looked depression in the eye and whispered “you cannot take me yet, you son of a bitch.” She has tasted years of joy and more than a fair share of bitterness.

What does this girl need? To tell herself she is worth it. So that’s what I did. I gave the girl in these pics the self love she needed and I said it aloud. Again.

Learning Self Love

Why do we as women wait so long to fall in love with ourselves? We spend years, days and commercials teaching self love to our children. We tell them they are precious, unique, worthy of all the good that we have in our lives.

We compliment our girlfriends, our sisters, our spouses and the lady on the subway with the fabulous handbag. Yet, at the end of the day, we stare a mirror and count faults.

When did we stop seeing ourselves as the princesses in the fairytales we read?

I am not saying that we always need a prince. Most of us can slay our own dragons, but we stop short of saying “I’m having a great hair day” or “I love the way this skirt/shoes/etc does for my figure.” When do we as women stop believing that all of us needs to be celebrated…by us?
Maybe it is because we worry that we will be judged even further than we already are. The latest issue of any grocery store magazine or movie will remind you your butt does not look like it did 20 years ago.  But I think it is deeper, harsher than that. We doubt because we forget that we are loved. We lower our expectations and forget to fight for ourselves. Even if that fight is with ourselves.

Yes, the girl in these pics needs to fix a lot of things, but if I forget to tell her how worthy she is, why do I expect anyone else to fill in those gaps? How can I teach my daughter to love who she is unless she see me embracing me as I am?

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If you have not heard that you are beautiful and worth it today, let this be your reminder. But more importantly that me telling you, go find your own girl in the mirror and tell her yourself. She will thank you!

 

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Buying A New Car

We have reached that dreaded point in our marriage where buying a new car is going to be necessary in a few months. I usually hate shopping for cars because buying a new car is such a hassle. We have actually been looking for almost a year and to be honest, I just do not want to shell out a ton of money for a vehicle.

Over the last two years, we have been so good about paying off debt and not incurring new debt. We also have been putting money into an account every month specifically for our car budget. And since we already know we want a used car, there is a great resource for us to have.

What I love about Cars.com is that I do not have to leave my house or even change out of my pjs. All I do is put in the car I am looking for, how far we are willing to travel and our price point. Then the website pulls up all the dealers in our area and voila!

While the mom side of my brain knows that room, storage, four doors is important and our family will be better served by something like this:

Reality

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Fantasy

I still cannot help dreaming that something like this would be WAY more fun!

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Have you shopped for a new or new to you car recently? Consider trying Cars.com to help find your next family vehicle. Or the sporty car of your fantasies!

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The Perfect Poolside Read http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/perfect-poolside-read/ http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/perfect-poolside-read/#respond Thu, 27 Jul 2017 17:40:15 +0000 http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/?p=7603 The Perfect Poolside Read I am always on the lookout for a good summer read and The Marriage Pact, is the perfect poolside read. With the kids out of school, I really work at each of us having a time set aside every day for us to read. Because there is a pool in our […]

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The Perfect Poolside Read

I am always on the lookout for a good summer read and The Marriage Pact, is the perfect poolside read. With the kids out of school, I really work at each of us having a time set aside every day for us to read. Because there is a pool in our backyard, I often use this as a motivator. We gather our books and head outside to sit beside the pool for 20-30 minutes each morning before they are allowed to swim.

Recently, I got to receive an advanced copy of Michelle Richmond’s newest summer novel, The Marriage Pact, by Random House.

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The Marriage Pact

The Marriage Pact is a summer thriller about a newly married couple, Alice and Jake. When provided the opportunity to solidify the success of their new marriage, they are offered what could be the chance of a lifetime. Or it could be the death of both of them and their marriage.

The novel explores marriage, relationships and cult culture to a level I have never yet experienced. I was so enthralled with finishing it, that I ended up reading well past the kids and I’s mandatory reading times each day.

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I even took the Flamingo floatie on a few laps around the pool everyday.

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There were

Although the strictness of the actual contract inside The Marriage Pact is a bit too creepy for my taste, one of the things I loved about this novel was the idea that each month you buy your spouse a gift. It doesn’t matter what the cost, the gift just has to be meaningful and thoughtful. When I finished the book yesterday, I looked up and there was one rose on my white rose bush. The rose bush was a gift my husband bought for me the month after my father died three years ago. White was Dad’s favorite color and my husband knows I would much rather plant flowers in the ground than put them in vases. The novel made me realize what a good man I had married in the first place and how maybe a certain amount of rules are not always bad. I said a certain amount.

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So go read this description about Michelle Richmond’s The Marriage Pact and then tell me in the comments if your marriage could survive such a contract?

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5 Sporting Rules For Parents http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/5-sporting-rules-for-parents/ http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/5-sporting-rules-for-parents/#comments Wed, 26 Jul 2017 11:20:43 +0000 http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/?p=7599 5 Sporting Rules For Parents Do you think there need to be sporting rules for parents? This post is my ranting and raving about how stupid our kids playing sports makes us as parents and what we can do to fix it.  When we adopted seven years ago, my husband and I had dreams of […]

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5 Sporting Rules For Parents

Do you think there need to be sporting rules for parents? This post is my ranting and raving about how stupid our kids playing sports makes us as parents and what we can do to fix it. 

When we adopted seven years ago, my husband and I had dreams of watching our kids play sports. Since hubs loves and passionately loves basketball, he was hoping for two basketball players. We were both surprised how quickly soccer came into our lives and in the last few years, has completely consumed our family time.

With a kid in junior high and one still in elementary school, I was shocked to learn that their competitive soccer schedules requires us to still be outside our home anywhere between 5-7 times a week. With the last month off, spending time as a family and living without a schedule, I have the WORST attitude about such a strenuous stress on our time continuing this week. In fact, if throwing a fit like a full on toddler helps describe my behavior, then take that imagery and run with it.

Before you lecture me on all of the good that sports can teach kids about self-esteem, life and teamwork, believe me when I tell you: I already know sports can be valuable to kids. I played team sports through high school and some of those relationships lasted my entire life. I learned devotion, how to be a good teammate and I’ve written before that it was a great relationship builder between my father and I.

Most of the time other than the time, money and effort we expend in chase of a black and white ball, what I hate the most about soccer season is the parents. Whether it is parents on our own team, the opposing teams’ parents or a combination of both, watching grown people making asses of themselves in public and without regard of their children’s reactions should be amusing. Mostly, though, I just want to cry.

I started wearing headphones two season ago during the games and it has helped avoid being caught up in the nonsense of the moment. So since the season is upon us, perhaps imposing rules on parents during sporting events will reduce the ridiculous parenting behavior during their children’s games.

Here would be my first five sporting rules for parents for this upcoming season:

  1. Each adult is to wear headphones during the entire length of the event. If you do not have headphones, you are required to share with a parent from the opposing team. Amazon is full of a great selection of headphones if you would like to shop there.
  2. Before the start of the game, each adult will be assigned a child from the opposing team for whom to cheer. You will be introduced to the child’s family before the game and will be given a quiz about that child’s likes, dislikes and family dynamic during halftime. Should you fail to participate or fail the exam, a fine will be imposed of no less than $100.*
  3. Each adult in attendance at the event, must cheer for each goal scored regardless of which team with which your child is participating. Scoring at anything in life is hard. But doing it with lots of people watching and coaches and kids screaming at you should be doubly celebrated by both sides of the field. Should any adult be caught not cheering during a score of the opposing team, a point/goal/touchdown/home run will be added to the opposing team’s score.
  4. Each adult shall at the start of each game, register a valid credit card will be left at the registration desk and assigned to your child’s specific jersey number. Should you fail to comply with any rules set forth herein, a fine of $100 dollars* will be deducted to your card. If you are going to be a jack ass, you should be held accountable and hopefully, your wallet is where you will be hit the most.
  5. Before leaving the field, you will be required to shake the hands of both coaches and complement at least one of the officials. Most of them are volunteers and a “Thank You” goes a long way. Should you fail to follow this rule, you will be fined $100.

*Any and all proceeds of said fines will be divided between the teams and specifically set aside for children who cannot afford to play. Continued violation of these rules will result of being permanently banned from attending your child’s sporting events.

Do you have any sporting rules for parents that you think need to be implemented? Let me know in the comments. I want to add them to my ever growing list!

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Perfect Mother Daughter Date http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/perfect-mother-daughter-date/ http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/perfect-mother-daughter-date/#respond Sun, 23 Jul 2017 16:23:37 +0000 http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/?p=7589 The Perfect Mother Daughter Date Having a teen girl is supposed to have all of these crazy challenges. I know that because a lot of my friends tell me how their teen is emotional, aloof and not a lot of fun to be around. This is not the case with my teen. Our only problem […]

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The Perfect Mother Daughter Date

Having a teen girl is supposed to have all of these crazy challenges. I know that because a lot of my friends tell me how their teen is emotional, aloof and not a lot of fun to be around. This is not the case with my teen.

Our only problem continues to be time. Between school, soccer, church and her overly crazy social life, I can only count on one hand the number of times we have been able to sneak away for an entire day to ourselves.

When Painting With A Twist sent me two free painting sessions, I thought about first making it a girls night and letting her just take a friend. But a few days ago, baby brother was at the lake and Daddy ended up having to work overtime. This left me and Ruta together with a free afternoon of fun.

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Back to School Shopping

Usually back to school shopping with a teenager is under the dictionary as “hell on earth”. But this year, she and I made a deal. She could pick out a few things that she loved, as long as she would take a few suggestions. And neither of us would take anything personally. Y’all-it worked like a dream!

She tried everything on and I agreed with all of the things she picked out. I would hand her a few things I thought might look good together and then left her in the dressing room to try them on. Then she came of the dressing room with a few of the things! Winning as a parent over here for a minute!

We grabbed lunch and then headed off to painting class.

Painting With A Twist

Ruta loves to draw, but painting is not something either of us do on a regular basis. We got there a few minutes early and got on our painting smocks.

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We painted an Owl and had to black out the entire canvas, so while the background color was drying, Painting With A Twist had some props for us to play with! Of course, I made her choose Wonder Woman because when I look at her, all I see is my daughter.

 

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We also looked at the printed flyers for the classes that are coming up in the next few weeks. They have some really cute classes for date night, kids and girls’ night.

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There is even  a wall where you can see what artwork is available in their over 8,000 pieces of copyrighted artwork.

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I am secretly stalking their website, for when this Panda painting class is coming up!

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Ruta and I had so much fun together, laughing and watching one another be creative. I tried not to be too emotional and sappy about the day. But driving home that night, she said “we should definitely spend more time together mom, just you and I. Today was a great day.”

So of course, I cried. And then she reminded me that she’s still a teenager by laughing at me and rolling her eyes.

But when I went to tell her good night, she had put her painting on her desk.

And I hurried out of her room before she saw me tear up again.

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You can plan your own date night, girls night out or the perfect mother daughter date at Painting With A Twist in your area, by clicking here and seeing all of their locations around the country. 

 

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Simple Summer Indulgences http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/simplesummerindulgences/ Sat, 22 Jul 2017 03:18:37 +0000 http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/?p=7584 This post is sponsored by MAX by MAXWELL HOUSE Simple Summer Indulgences I think I had a bad misconception about summer. In May, I believed no school for the kids would mean less things to do come June. Like most every other thing in parenting, I misjudged it. We are busier now than when they […]

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Simple Summer Indulgences

I think I had a bad misconception about summer. In May, I believed no school for the kids would mean less things to do come June. Like most every other thing in parenting, I misjudged it.

We are busier now than when they were in school and I often find myself thinking “where is our pause button?” Between soccer camps, church camp, skills training for soccer and sleepover with friends, we are constantly in the car. Writing full time has been one of the biggest joys of this year, but I am still working while the kids are on summer break.

Most mornings, I do not have the time to wait on the coffee pot. Which is why the MAX Indulgence by Maxwell House is so fantastic! It is amazing mocha, amazingly fast and curbs my cravings for all things coffee.

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It is dissolvable in hot water, so you simply fill up your tumbler or mug and spoon in the goodness. There are two new flavors, S’More and Mocha Salted Caramel. The taste is fantastic and it is nice to save the extra money not driving through the drive through for expensive coffee.

Learn More About Mocha Salted Caramel

Mocha Salted Caramel is the favorite around here. I am really excited about the kids being at church camp next week because while they may not be able to settle down this summer, mommy does. And I plan to do it poolside.

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Be sure to look for MAX Indulgence by Maxwell House at your local Walmart and see which flavor is going to be your summer indulgence and learn more here. What are some of your favorite simple summer indulgences? Leave me a comment and let me know, because we can never have too many sweet treats!

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Taco Tuesday Poolside http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/taco-tuesday-poolside/ Mon, 10 Jul 2017 15:52:22 +0000 http://www.lindseyandrewswriter.com/?p=7553 Taco Tuesday Poolside Disclaimer:This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and Conagra Brands. All opinions are mine alone. #ServeUpSummer #CollectiveBias Just click the picture above to take you straight to shopping for the ingredients in this recipe. I love everything about summer time. The hot weather, the sunshine and an endless supply of pool […]

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Taco Tuesday Poolside

Disclaimer:This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and Conagra Brands. All opinions are mine alone. #ServeUpSummer #CollectiveBias

Just click the picture above to take you straight to shopping for the ingredients in this recipe.

I love everything about summer time. The hot weather, the sunshine and an endless supply of pool floats. These are the basics for an amazing day at the pool. One of the things I struggle with though, is what to serve the kids without spending too much time in the kitchen.

The perfect poolside finger food menu is simple, easy to prepare in advance and can be plated in a moment’s notice. This recipe combines several of my favorite things: RO*TEL®, Taco Tuesday and avocados.

Not much is easier than a taco party, served up poolside.

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I don’t like leaving a lot of food outside while we are swimming. This spicy taco meat recipe combines a majority of the ingredients without the need for a lot of prep work. It can also be easy covered and taken back inside when no one is snacking.

Spicy Taco Filling

2 lbs. hamburger meat

1/2 small onion

1/2 can of RO*TEL® (if you like it spicy, feel free to dump in the whole can)

1/2 can of Hunt’s® Diced Tomatoes

3 tablespoons worcestershire sauce

2 tablespoons soy sauce

2 cups of pepper jack cheese

Add the hamburger meat to a pan and add the onion. While it is cooking toss the RO*TEL® and the tomatoes into a blender. Pulse to your desired consistency.

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Once the meat and onion are almost cooked through, toss in the worcestershire and soy sauce and add the pureed RO*TEL® and Hunt’s® tomatoes. Allow to simmer until combined and mixture is thick.

At this point you can cool it down and then put it in the fridge for a few days until you are ready to serve. When you warm it back up, add the cheese and stir until the cheese is completely melted into the mixture.

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Plate with tortillas, chips, avocados, spicy peppers on a serving tray. Serve poolside. No one has to waste time with the prep work of a complete taco bar, as everything is already inside the taco!

 

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I am even taking this recipe with me this week when we are on the beach and serving it as a dip for when the kids decide to stop playing in the sand. Who says that recipes for serving a crowd have to be hard! For more summer inspiration on how to #ServeUpSummer check this out and make sure to stock up on supplies at your local Wal-Mart.

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