Mother Me Time-Guilt Free New Year


Mother Me Time-Guilt Free New Year

A few days ago, I was given the most amazing opportunity. 36 hours with no children and no spouse. While I am not usually an advocate for deserting every single member of your family, this was the most amazing space in life for me in I don’t remember when. The kids went to the grandparents and the hubs was at work. I was completely left to my own devices. I will admit that for about fifteen minutes I was completely lost inside this newly found mother me time.

I made up for it though in record time. I wrote for an entire afternoon and even ordered a movie that no one else would watch but me. I made a soup that no one else eats but myself. I served it out of my grandmother’s china, which I will not allowed to be eaten on by our kids because, well, the 7 year old has the manners bound only for a hog trough. Yet, while all of this time was glorious and I cannot wait to do it again, I fought off the guilt. Guilt of the husband being at work. Guilt of the kids being somewhere else. Guilt that I was actually having so much fun.

Ladies, why do we do this to ourselves? Why is mommy me time, no matter how long, or for what reason a thing we are made to feel guilty about? I wrestled with this for most of the evening and I came to only one conclusion. We  women (whether you are a mother or not) spend so much time taking care of everything else, we rarely devote anything to ourselves. When we are finally allotted or provided the opportunity, we freak out. Whatever mommy me time we finally have we sabotage with our own thoughts.

 

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I think this is the only new years resolution I plan on making this year. If and when the opportunity arises for time to write or run or read or watch I will not waste it. I will not only embrace it but I will enjoy it to the fullest. No guilt attached.

Taking care of myself helps me take care of those around me better than when I’m stressed. And none of us are being helped if we’re surrounded in guilt.

In what ways are you planning on taking care of yourself this year?

Mom's Small Victories
Lindsey Andrews
About me

Attorney & Author of I Walk For Water. http://amzn.to/1FWlzpW Loved by hubs, 2 adopted kids, but worshiped by a French bulldog, named Walter.

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14 Comments

Tayrina
Reply December 30, 2015

I completely agree with you on this. I'm not a mother (Yet), but sometimes I care so much about other things around me and I forget totally about me. You did good! - That time is good to recharge and then continue with our weekly plans. Great post.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply December 30, 2015

    Tayrina,

    Thank you. I think self care is so important and it is one of the easiest ways we girls refuse to take care of ourselves! It is always something I am working on!

    Hugs and love,

    Lindsey

Angela @ Setting My Intention
Reply January 2, 2016

Good for you Lindsey! The past year or two I have taken to running, writing, and taking annual solo silent retreats - guilt free. Your neighbor at Small Victories

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply January 2, 2016

    Angela-I love the idea of a solo silent retreat. Do you actually go some where or do you just kick everyone out of the house? I've toyed around with doing this for a weekend, but didn't know what the fallout would be like. :) So excited to connect.

Mary Hill
Reply January 4, 2016

What a great reminder. When we take care of ourselves and are at our best, we can do our best for those whom we love. Thanks sharing on Literacy Musing Mondays this week.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply January 4, 2016

    Thanks Mary! I know I always take care of everyone better when I take care of myself eventually. Love Literary Musing Monday's!

Tanya @ Mom's Small Victories
Reply January 7, 2016

I'm so happy when moms take time for themselves. I never used to take time out for me but for the past few years, my hubby and I give each other a weekly night off from parenting duties. It's our time to plan with friends or just do whatever we like. It's invaluable and helps us each decompress so that we're more present every other day in the week. Your retreat, 36 hours, sounds heavenly! Thanks for sharing with Small Victories Sunday Linkup. Pinning to our linkup board and hope you found some great posts to visit this week!

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply January 7, 2016

    Tanya, I love that you and your husband give time for both of you to do things away from everyone. I am loving Small Victories Sunday Linkup and all the great new articles I've read. Looking forward to reading more soon!

    Hugs and Love,

    Lindsey

Leigh Powell HInes
Reply January 10, 2016

This is so important, and I agree 100 percent. I feel like I need that weekend. Thanks for linking up with Small Victories and being one of our features.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply January 10, 2016

    Leigh, Thank you so much for stopping by! I didn't know I was a feature, where would I find that?
    Thanks again,

    Lindsey

Anastacia Maness
Reply January 27, 2016

Yes. This is probably one of the hardest things. I had one of those days a few months ago when I was invited to accompany my husband to an out of town conference for a couple of days. My parents kept the kids. It was so quiet. :)

Thanks for sharing your post with us, Lindsey! I'm stopping by from Ask God Today's Warm Hearted Wednesday Link-up.

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply January 27, 2016

    Thank you for stopping by Anastacia! Quiet days are some of my favorite because they are so very rare. :)

Brenda McGraw
Reply January 30, 2016

Hey Lindsey,
Yay You! It's awesome that you got some "me time, mommy alone time." My kids are grown now and I have a lot of this time now, but I remember those years. Thanks for linking up with us over on #AskGodToday. We will be doing Link-ups now every Wednesday. Hope you will stop by again. Have a great weekend. Brenda

    Lindsey Andrews
    Reply January 30, 2016

    Thanks for connecting Brenda! I will stop by again this next week!
    Hugs and love,

    Lindsey

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